Friday, October 12, 2012

~ grateful for ... us ~



Its chilly outside, rain is falling, I'm thinking about lighting the fire for later (already).
6 years ago today where we were was warm and sunny, bright and breezy.
It was our wedding day.
We'd been together for 10 years and had 2 beautiful children.  
Life was great (sleep deprived but great).

We eloped, took our little family to a beach far away and got married.  
Didn't tell anyone.  (ANYONE.  That did not go down well)
I'd never been one for fantasies of white weddings, meringue gowns, having the "big day"
I felt I already had it all.

From the very beginning all I'd felt was certainty.  
The rightness of us.
What we ran to was a marriage not a wedding*. 

Life's changed.
We're a family of 5 now, we've renovated our house, we have different jobs, new friends, a new set of priorities.
That promise to share a life, to hope for the best, to be there for each other just keeps expanding.

We're still so right.
And I'm so very grateful for that. 


 ♥


*{Bron wrote a beautiful piece about this topic that spoke to me from the first time I read it - like she'd examined my half formed thoughts and made sense of them}

34 comments:

  1. Happy Anniverary! I like what you did for your wedding day, I'm not into the me me me of a typical wedding either. A really lovely post Ally x

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    1. I'm so not a me me me girl either!!
      thank you
      x

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  2. Happy Anniversary :)

    gorgeous photo too :)

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    1. Thanks Vickie - this was my fave of the day - very us

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  3. Congratulations on a beautiful marriage and happy anniversary! This was a really gorgeous Post and echos my sentiments on the whole marriage versus wedding thing as well. Mel x

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    1. thanks Mel - 6 years on and I'm still convinced we made the right decisions all the way

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  4. Happy Wedding anniversary! What a beautiful photo. What a beautiful story. I love hearing that after 16 years together, you are still so right, even with all the changes and evolving. Just beautiful.

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  5. Happy anniversary. Such a beautiful photo. The colours, everything. I, too, like the words you rang to a marriage and not a wedding.

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    1. Thankyou - the asleep daughter has chosen to have this hanging in her room

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  6. I was so thrilled to read of your marriage, congratulations on your anniversary. I really wish that Suzanne could see your beautiful blog x.

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    1. Thanks Lesley
      I really wish she could too
      xx

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    1. we are very grateful for all we have
      x

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  8. happy anniversary! your story is beautiful. i love this comment "What we ran to was a marriage not a wedding". so wonderful xx

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  9. That would have to be the most perfect wedding ever.
    Simple beautiful.
    xxx

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  10. PS I was very intrigued by your comment about gratitude, Ally. I think you raised something really important. Like most people in our society, I struggle to be grateful for all that I have/do/am and often wrestle with doubt, pessimism, fear and a sense that I am not enough. That's actually why I like the weekly gratitude practice so much: it forces me to keep my eyes open all week so I have something to blog about on Saturdays! Also, it's called practice, so all I need to to is show up... it doesn't need to be perfect. :-)
    Thank you for sharing your struggle. I can really relate and would honestly want to say that the gratitude practice is often not enough to "snap me out" of a bad patch... but just the act of doing it every week seems to make a difference. Even if it's a small moment of sitting quietly and allowing everything that I do/have/am just to be enough, just for that moment. xxx

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  11. That image is stunning! Love your words Ally. Happy wedding anniversary! Ours is today - six years ago too! xx

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    1. hope you had a lovely anniversary
      x

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  12. This is a beautiful photo of all of you. Happy Anniversary to you both, this is such a beautiful post Ally, the words make so much sense so thoughtful. xx

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  13. Just bloomin' YAY! for you guys. Full stop.

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  14. Yay yay yay!!! Beautiful post! So right is so good! *s*

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  15. Hi again Ally,
    Yup! I hear you. The little things can slip by so quickly that it can be hard to take a moment's pause to notice, let alone record them.
    And the celebrating vs bragging debate, ach! Don't get me started!! :-)
    Thanks again for a lovely and interesting little exchange on this. It's important, no?
    Kat xxx

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  16. Happy wedding Anniversary! How brave of you to elope and not tell anyone? In the months leading up to my wedding I wished I did that myself.

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  17. Happy wedding anniversary it looks like you had a great wedding. I think eloping would be so much easier!

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  18. A beautiful post with beautiful words. Happy anniversary x

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